Video chat, schmideo chat

Remember the first time you recorded your own voice and then listened to it? For me, it was on a large black tape recorder owned by my elementary school. I remember cringing at the sound of my voice and thinking that the machine must have distorted it to create that annoying whine. Interesting that technology hasn’t advanced much since then because that same voice exists on my voicemail today. Hmmm.

When I was pregnant with my son, we bought our first video camera to document our miracle baby and all of his milestones. Five years later, I still run for cover when my husband grabs the camera to catch me and the kids dancing in the living room or playing soccer in the backyard. I like to consider myself more of a director type than the actual on-screen talent.

I recently splurged and purchased my first smartphone. It’s everything I could want in a phone and more. What’s the more? Video chat. Why on earth would I ever want to video chat?! I love a good Google Talk as much as the next person, but by talk I really mean type.

When I get home from my day job, the real work begins…cooking, cleaning, kids to bed, and finally a killer workout. By the time I’m ready to hop online, I ain’t too pretty. The last thing I want is to do is chat with my friends and family sporting a sweaty ponytail and a spaghetti-stained tank. Have you ever seen what you look like through the phone camera anyway? Talk about a close-up…your forehead looks twice as big, your eyes are slightly crossed, and your pores are enormous. Vain? Absolutely.

Will I never video chat? Well, I must admit that I do look forward to personally blowing my babies a kiss goodnight during my next trip to New Jersey. For that alone, I’ll learn to tolerate the feature. But don’t expect an invitation from me to video chat with you anytime soon.

Despicable Us

I lost the coin toss on Friday morning. This meant I would be accompanying my kindergarten son to Halloween trick-or-treating at his elementary school followed by a showing of “Despicable Me” in the gymnasium. Flipping a coin to decide who was lucky enough to stay home with our two-year-old daughter was merely the first despicable act of the day.

We arrived at school in time to join the hallway stroll with ninjas, princesses, athletes, grannies, superheros, mummies, and one very inappropriate five-year-old Lady Gaga who made my miniature Transformer blush. It’s no stretch to say that girl’s mom committed the second despicable act of the day.

With prizes in hand and blankets on the hard floor, we waited for the movie to start. The lights went down and the gymnasium fell silent. About 30 minutes into the movie, my left leg started tingling which only enhanced the numbness of my rear. It was time to move from my cross-legged position and look around the room to see if the other parents looked as uncomfortable as I felt.

To my surprise, the room was glowing like a Bon Jovi concert. About 60% of the light was coming from little ones wearing their new glow bracelets, but the other 40% was coming from parents looking at their mobile phones. Hmmm. Well, I did have a few e-mails that needed attention, so I fired up my BB and joined the crowd of despicable parents who can’t sit with their kids for a 90-minute movie.

Like all good animated films, this movie had an underlying theme hidden in the brilliant lines of Steve Carell and the antics of his minions, who were really just Universal Studio’s version of the oompa loompa. The theme was about loving somebody unconditionally despite their flaws. It’s the kind of love that I have been blessed enough to receive from both my parents and my children. I can only hope that it’s strong enough to endure when my son is a teenager and he realizes that not only did his parents flip a coin to determine who had to attend his movie night, but that his mother was rude enough to send e-mails during the movie. I am ashamed of myself.

One good thing did come from the evening, however. I feel great relief knowing that if ever a tornado blows through town on a school day, Noah will be secure in that gymnasium. I know this because the glow from those mobile devices danced around the room as we all stretched our arms toward the open door waving them around for a better signal. Despicable.

Relinquish your ridiculous ringtone

The other day I was standing in line at the grocery store when a crazy loud version of Sir Mix-a-Lot’s “Baby Got Back” started playing behind me. Just as I was starting to jam, the song cut to “Hey, I’ll have to call you back.” I turned around to find a woman clearly humiliated from the unwanted attention of several onlookers. Why would somebody pay $3 for a ringtone and then secretly hope that their phone never rings in public?!

I recently signed a contract with Verizon and their brochure touted the tens of thousands of ringtones available in their media store. I wonder exactly how many ringtones I would need to preview before I found one that perfectly represents my personality. Would it be painfully long but hilariously clever like the operator tone? The offensive and creepy angry baby? Or the aptly name ridiculous tone?

While I prefer a mellow “Popple” tone, I realize that some of you don’t hear your phone ring unless it rocks you like a hurricane. For you, may I recommend something a little more classic like Beethoven’s 5th Symphony on high volume with a supplemental vibration? Loud doesn’t have to be embarrassing.

What’s your ringtone?

Fundraising is not fun

Three weeks into kindergarten, Noah brought home his first fundraising packet. I couldn’t wait to ditch…I mean dive into that catalog of overpriced wrapping paper and cans of mixed nuts that could send both of my minis into anaphylaxis. Did the school run out of money during the three short weeks since I dropped Noah off bearing $100 dollars worth of folders, crayons, markers, glue, water paint, Kleenex, paper towels, crackers, and a resting mat? You heard me — a resting mat. They do know that those 20 glue sticks should not be applied to chapped lips, right?

Today, we got our second monthly Scholastic Book Club flyer. I cherish books and will always encourage my children to read. However, when those books arrive in the classroom, they are handed out to students like Christmas presents. Some kids get 5-6 books while others get none. Maybe it’s because their parents are having a rough month. Maybe (as in our case) it’s because I’ve been buying children’s books since before they were born, so we have shelves overflowing with stories we haven’t even touched yet.

Schools preach to “just say no” and not succumb to peer pressure. What about the pressure they apply to children? Sell more, buy more, earn more points for the classroom so we can have a pizza party or a movie day.

It’s important to me personally that my child doesn’t feel different just because his parents disagree with the system. But I refuse to peddle those overpriced goods to my family, friends, and co-workers. I will be the mom who writes a check for $75 and you will be the friend who receives the most expensive can of mixed nuts wrapped exquisitely in the shiniest paper you’ve even seen. I bet you can hardly wait!

Going broke with Groupon

Last Friday wasn’t just any date night. It was date night with a free babysitter and a Groupon! How could we possibly go wrong with such an extreme score? Upon meeting my husband at the locally owned Italian eatery, we found ourselves uttering the following phrases:

  • Let’s order an appetizer – we have a Groupon.
  • Should we get another round of drinks? We have a Groupon.
  • Don’t order your favorite margherita pizza, get something better – we have a Groupon.
  • How about dessert? We have a Groupon.

We left this popular restaurant two hours later feeling uncomfortably full, fairly buzzed, and completely broke. This sacred Groupon somehow made us feel entitled to splurge beyond our means and our appetites. As a result, we spent more money than we would have on a normal date night with a paid sitter.

I have been purchasing these money-saving gems since the inception of Groupon. I have purchased photo framing, teeth whitening, massages, pedicures, and play date activities. In fact, next week I will be enjoying a $19 gel manicure at my favorite salon. Why do I need a $19 gel manicure? I don’t. I have 20 shades of nail polish in my closet and two hands that are perfectly capable of painting the nails on the other. Still, when that e-mail arrives in my inbox every morning with claims to save 50-60% on a service or product I don’t actually need, suddenly I would be a fool for not purchasing this convenient mobile scannable bar code of sheer value.